Letter to Expectant Parent(s)
Dear Expectant Parent(s),
This letter is very difficult to write because there are not enough words to ever describe how much we want to be parents and how much love we will have for a child. We are so thankful you have made the decision to give your child life and we feel honored that you are taking the time to read our letter. Please know that we appreciate you and the very hard decision you have arrived at by making an adoption plan. We expect this is very difficult for you and we respect the sacrifice you are making for your child. As you read this letter, we hope you can see at least a little bit of who we are, our desire to become parents, and the tremendous amount of love we have to give a child.
Some people have amazing, over the top stories about how they met and fell in love. We are not those people. Our story is far from the pages of a fairy tale. We met in North Carolina. Our first date, which took place in Jacksonville, involved a trip to the local Wal-Mart for groceries and cooking utensils...our timeline was delayed so the date didn't happen until he picked me up at 3am, and since there aren't many awesome places serving dinner at that hour in the morning, we had to cook dinner for ourselves. By the time we ate dinner, we could have gone out for a 5am breakfast. When he finally asked me to marry him, we were in North Carolina near the USS North Carolina Battleship. It was two days after Valentine's Day, extremely cold, and there was a very wet, slushy snow falling. Since it took him long enough to pop the question, when it happened I replied with "Are you joking me?"...turns out, he was totally serious, and I said yes! We were married in my hometown in Kentucky (the town we currently live) on July 6, 2013. Our wedding day sounds like a great day to joke about how all the fireworks were about us, but since we were 5 days into a 7 day stretch of pouring rain, there were no fireworks set off that Independence Day weekend. In fact, more than half of our guests literally had to drive through floodwaters to get to the church for the wedding. It wasn't exactly a fairy tale, but we did look a lot like Cinderella and Prince Charming. And we are currently living our happily ever after. We may be the very definition of ordinary, but we have an extraordinary love for one another. And we are so anxious to share our extraordinary love with a child.
I (Kacey) am a History teacher with 12 years of service in the classroom working with high school students. Chris has happily endured listening to me recount day after day of life in the classroom and talk about policy and regulation changes in education. At the end of the day, the many students I grow to love (all of them) are the reasons my job is important. We have been through a lot together. We've managed the distance and separation that comes with the military. We've walked the hard and thorny path of life and death situations when my husband suffered an injury that resulted in his medical retirement from the Marine Corps. We've endured long hospital stays and recoveries. Chris is a retired Marine with 16 years of service and currently works a very flexible part-time position with a logistics and transportation company to add extra income beyond his retirement income for our family. We have traveled across the country together on road trips truly enjoying our time together...except when he sings Marty Robbins songs, its mostly annoying but sometimes hilarious and yes, I do have the videos on my phone to prove it. We've celebrated big family holiday gatherings, birthdays, and new nieces and nephews. We are each other's best friend, first and last thoughts of the day, and first phone call when we are apart from each other. We pray together, laugh together, and we know beyond anything else that we were brought together by the hand of God.
We've navigated the complexity of fertility issues, the medical appointments, and the effort and failure associated with treatment and doctor's advice. We have been ready to be parents for quite some time. Even before we were married, we began praying for our future children. Before questions of infertility and fertility treatment ever came into view, adoption was on our radar. Through prayerful consideration and discernment, we have come to realize that God is leading us to become parents through adoption. We have a wonderful and blessed life, but the one thing missing is children. As parents, we will provide a child with a Christian home full of love; with birthday and holiday celebrations full of great-grandparents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and lots of cousins who are all anxiously waiting to love a child; with family vacations and travel opportunities to let him/her see and explore the world around them; with educational opportunities from pre-school to the collegiate level; and with unconditional love and support to pursue his/her talents and dreams.
While we continue to pray for God to grant us the desires of hearts to become parents, we are also praying for you. By choosing us to adopt your child, you are bestowing upon us the greatest blessing we could ever ask for - to become parents! We are praying for God to grant you peace with your decisions, to give you strength during the hard parts, to cover your heartaches with comfort and love, and most of all, we are praying for God to bless you for blessing us!
Chris and Kacey